Too many of us are afraid to ask to explore different sexual desires. Sometimes, it’s about giving up control to someone else. Other times, it’s about taking control away. As long as these desires are mutual and consensual, anything goes. There are so many fantasies and desires, it would be impossible to cover them all. One of these desires is pegging.
If you don’t know, this is the act of a woman using a strapon with a man. You may understand why people are embarrassed to approach the subject of pegging, but, it’s a perfectly normal desire to want to fulfill. If you’re reading this, you’re likely interested already. So, let’s talk about what you need to know about pegging sex with your partner:
1. Equipment
The first step to successful pegging sex is having the right equipment. You and your partner should go shopping together and decide what is the best size for your first session. After you’re both more used to the sensation, you can opt for something bigger/thicker. When you’re first starting out, smaller is better. You don’t want to shock your partner by pushing something too deep. There are strapons for first-time pegging that have appropriate sized dildos. These are often small at the tip, getting wider as they get to the base. But, they aren’t too wide or too long. They are somewhere in the middle. 5-6 inches is a good bench mark for the length of the dildo you’re using. The width should be about an inch and a half.
2. Preparation
Many of us forget that foreplay is an important part of a sexual experience. After all, the vagina is self-lubricating and doesn’t always require a build up. Unfortunately, the anal passage does not have the same ability. When you’re pegging, you have to use lubrication to work your partner open. Foreplay is a major part of pegging. One that shouldn’t be neglected! Smaller toys or even fingers are a suiting way to prepare your partner. When you’re ready for insertion, use plenty of lubrication on around the anus, as well as on the strapon. This will give you a smoother slide and decrease the amount of discomfort your partner will feel.
3. Penetration
As the male partner, it’s important to note that it won’t be pleasurable at first. Whether anal play is a regular part of your routine or it’s your first time. It’s not the same as knowing your female partner is taking control with a strapon. You’ll need to be more mentally prepared for this than physically. For the female partner, it’s important to go slow, letting your companion adjust to the reality of the situation. If at any point you are uncomfortable with what is going on: Stop. Do not feel pressured into any type of sexual intercourse. If it’s just weird, wait it out a little. You’re likely to get over that feeling once the pleasure kicks in.
4. Enjoy
The ride is worth the discomfort. Don’t over-think what is taking place (either of you). Simply go with what feels good and give into the moments. This is a big step, but you’re taking it together. You’re exploring your sexual desires, which is healthy. Plus, you’re demonstrating an advanced level of trust with one another. These are all good things. Things you will likely want to experience over and over again. So, do it!
